I am beginning to feel better as the days wear on. For instance, I gave Patty’s truck to Dan recently. It seemed like the right thing to do. My big worry was my reaction during the giving process. I managed to hold myself together as we went through the paperwork. I really did not know how it would go. Our driveway now looks barren without the truck sitting there. Something else to get used to.

David is keeping the yard in good shape and I believe Patty would approve of the what he is doing. David is grieving the loss of his Mother and he tries to stay busy to avoid thinking too much. Not an easy thing to do when you are living in her house with the ever present reminders of her everywhere you turn. I am completely unable to do what I must eventually do to dispose of her belongings. I may never get there. It seems that everything in my present life is somehow connected to the events of our long marriage and my memories of these is painfully sharp. I think of our time together constantly and I continue to miss her very much. I would not have it any other way.


I am 89 years old and was married for 66 years. My wife passed away in 2016. I am a retired engineer and spent 35 years developing INS gyroscopes. I was a High School mentor in physics, a mountaineer, a model builder, a machinist and I have a degree in Physics. My interests include railroad history and photography, science history, cosmology, interesting people, and old engineering drawings. I place a high value on my friendships. I enjoying my life and I try look forward with a sense of anticipation and curiosity about what my future has in store for me.

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  1. Thank you for the much awaited post and thank you for gifting Dan your beloved Patty’s truck. It is much needed and appreciated especially because it was his mother’s. I know of no rule that says you must dispose of your loved one’s belongings. I find comfort in having some of my father’s things around me and it has been 6 years since he died. His ashes still sit in my mother’s house and I know that brings comfort to her and I love that she is there with him in whatever form that may be. Much love to you my dear father-in-law.


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